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What if the only thing that mattered at all is the one question; "what was I put here to do?"


We all go through moments when we feel like something is missing.  It's during these times that we question exactly why we are here, and what we are supposed to be doing.


You can't "think" your way into your purpose, you actually have to do something, a whole bunch of somethings in order to find out what your higher purpose is.


When you can learn to separate your ego from your calling, you are better prepared to hear the answers that get delivered.


The ego is that little bubble that we all live in.  Within our bubble all things relate to us self-centeredly.  We know which things feel good, which things make us feel emotion, how we care to be perceived, and how we don't want to be judged.


But it's only when we allow our minds the freedom to get out of our own heads, and see how our tiny little life is part of a great big picture, that we can begin to see how our true calling can have a greater affect than just within the minisule scope of our ego.


Your true calling is not someting that solely benefits your life.  It is the way that your life can impact the world and mankind. Your purpose is greater than you.  It has a ripple effect that touches, heals, eases suffering, inspires, soothes, creates happiness, causes change and makes other's shine.


It's not about you.  It's about why you were given this life.  It's about who you can touch along the way.


Your calling is a gift to be enjoyed by others.


It's a funny thing, you need to get out of your head to be able to understand how your purpose can change others, but the answer to what, exactly, you were meant to do comes only from within yourself.


You innately know why you were put here.  You were born all-knowing.  But you have to become in tune with your life experiences in order to understand when you have the most impact, when your actions are in harmony with your spirirt, when you fully grasp the power of your calling.



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How your friends and family can help you find your purpose


Getting outside of your own ego can be challenging.  It is a skill that needs to be learned and practiced.

You must practice learning to see things as real and factual instead of being judgemental or deciding how something relates to your life.


And in searching for your life's purpose, it can be easy for our brains to complicate the answers by judging things based on how we percieve them, or what our past experiences have been, instead of just by facts.


And our egos have a way of ignoring the positives, and only remembering the negatives because those emotions hurt, and painful emotions cause a blemish on our fragile egos.


Say, for instance, you organized a meal for 20 people.  You thought about the menu, shopped for the groceries, prepared the food perfectly so that it was served hot and delicious.  19 of your guests raved about the food, they were impressed with your cooking skills, your flair for presentation, and how easy you made it look.  One of your guests, however, made fun of your wine selection, mocking your lack of knowledge in a category that he felt superior in, and he repeatedly made snide remarks throughout the evening.

So what would your ego take away from that experience?  

Would you remember how one of your guests asked you to teach her to cook? Or would you remember the delightful moans when another guest sampled the dessert?

Probably not.  

Your ego would focus on the one thing that wasn't perfect, and dwell.


Our egos tend to inhibit our potential, and cause us to avoid anything that has brought us pain in the past by placing self-imposed limits on what we should and shouldn't do.


So here's a little experiment, to remove your ego, and become vulnerable and open to receiving guidance from the people you trust the most.


I want you to pick 5 people who you respect and trust, and I want you to send them an email.  In the email, you are going to ask for their honest feedback, and I want you to be open to listening, without judgement, to their answers.


I want you to ask them to answer personal questions about you, things that you already know, but have let your ego get in the way of the real answers.

And I want you to analyze, study, and think about the way that these people see what your life looks like from outside of your own head.


You can copy this email here.


Dear _____________________,


I'm working on a social experiment that involves me becoming a little more familiar with how I am perceived by others.


I hope you don't mind that I've chosen you to give me feedback, but I know that I can count on you to be honest with me no matter what.


Can you answer these questions for me?


1) What would you say are my three greatest strengths?


2) What would you say I am most passionate about?


3) What would be a perfect career choice for me and why?


4) If I called you to say that I needed bail money because I was arrested for defending a cause close to my heart, what would you imagine that cause to be?


5) What would you say you value most about our relationship?


I appreciate you taking the time to answer these questions.


Take care, 




It will be interesting for you to compare the answers from five different sources and look for commonalities.  You will probably read most of these answers and feel a "yes! I agree!" from within.


This should help remove your ego while you do some soul-listening to the answers you already know.






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